Forgive to forget

She allowed herself to fall in love, although she didn't really want to; she didn't envisage this happening and still, it did. What happened next was that he left for good...so no romance involved after all.

Forgiveness comes with acceptance. Allowing yourself to fall in love or perform any other action, has to imply you being aware of it and accepting the situation. It is what is, it happened, that's life, we move on. Life cannot be planned, life happens...she happened to realize she was in denial until it grew on her she was slowly falling for him, but little did she know it would be too late.

There's a saying that things happen for a reason and it is undeniably true. We should stop underestimating this saying and come to consciously realize that each one of us has a different path to follow and the things happening in our lives, they do have an implication to make us understand the direction of our life journey and what appropriate action we should take at the right moment.

There's no such thing as blaming yourself! Blaming, as far as I am concerned, comes when you are in a continuous process of denial with yourself and then you find out you were right from the beginning, but didn't choose to listen to yourself, to your inner desires and burning thoughts. On the other hand, if you engage in the process of acceptance, you are more at ease with your thoughts, by having a clear way of thinking which resonates with your actions. Accept and be aware of what is around you, without running away; it might be too late to come back and find the same situation as you have left it.

Forgiving yourself, by rewinding the actions from the past and observing what could possibly have been missing, comes with acceptance. You face facts and you accept them as they are right now. You want so badly to go back in time and change the plot, but you are aware that this is not possible anymore; so instead, you forgive yourself by not having fallen in love at the right time, as in her case; but again, it is not expected to mould things the way you want, cause things occur naturally, without you or the others forcing anything.

By forgiving herself, she comes slowly to forget about him and she moves on, as she should have done when he left. Life just goes on, there's no other way.

She knows that the time spent with him did her good, cause he made her happy during that time; she does also know she will soon come to find happiness again or better said, happiness will find her.