What does perfection mean to you?

There’s no such thing as not creating expectations. There will always be the unreasonable urge for setting expectations, depending what we want in life. I truly believe still that setting high expectations is essentially healthy because this way, one has high standards and won’t allow absolutely everything in life cross the limit and break those standards, which to me is the equivalent of breaking one’s principles and morality.

Setting high expectations is the pass to a well-deserved and meaningful relationship, securing our heart from being brutally accessed too many times.

In this article I will specifically talk about perfectionism from a relationship point of view between two partners. It occurred to me not recently, but never was conscious enough to fully open my eyes to the fact, that perfectionism can be attained only by those who are perfectionists themselves; and it seems pretty obvious and logical when you read it out loud right? But on second thoughts, those perfectionists who are in an endless search for perfectionism will only get a temporary taste of perfectionism, which might be a bitter unpleasant taste. It all seems a fairy tale world in the beginning… love is in the air, sparks everywhere, those butterflies in the stomach, but let’s also not forget that love can blind people, making them unaware of some apparent signals regarding the status of a relationship.

“Perfect” is when we wish we had something, but it’s just not possible to have it because of certain circumstances. “Perfect” is when we resent something that could have been hell of an amazing relationship, but never was. “Perfect” is when we fantasize too much and will, therefore, be unaware and unconscious of the people out there who might actually be a good match for us. “Perfect” is when we develop a selfish personality of ourselves, totally overseeing our mental health and inner peace, thus choosing the wrong misleading path, which appears trustworthy to us in the beginning.

There is no such thing as “perfect”; we create our own definition of perfectionism and it is us who get to decide that something that could have been perfect needs to end; it just won’t work out and our inner peace and happiness will be at risk. Only time will get to decide the perfect scenario for us, when we encounter that “perfect” partner for us, who is meant to stay in our lives and be part of it.

Until then, we need to think what is best for us to pursue relationship-wise and what and who will realistically make us happy and complete in the long-term. Let’s not lie to ourselves obstructively.